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Wednesday, December 2, 2020

生前约死后 ( Till We Meet Again ) ~~~ Do We Really Have Enough Time With Our Family?

 


I watched this movie the other day after suggested by my ex-coursemate. There are different perspectives when I watch this movie. If were to portrays about how Psychiatrists conduct their job, I think that the role of psychiatrists played by (Jennifer Yu, 余香凝) may caused confusion for the public to understand the role of them. She seems like playing the role as a counselor but not as professional as the counselor. Doctor and Patient shouldn't have dual-relationship. 

But in this movie, she did too much of self-disclosure about her private life. Her issues with her father then in the end, her patient, Ng Ka-Wai (played by Steven Ma, 馬志偉) has to counsel her in return and convince her to see her father. As a professional, should not let the patient or client knows too much of personal life. Moreover, what she shared to her patient is about her problems with her father. This is something that is negative and not suitable to add on to a patient who personally is already facing mental illness. 

When her patient have illusion whereby he thinks that he had a good friend Chi (played by Himmy Wong, 黃定謙), invited her to meet "Chi", she did not tell her patient directly that actually this person is actually is illusion. In another way round, she kinda had create a false assurance that "Chi" is real. She should act genuine. Yes means yes and no means no. She is giving a false perception to her patient. 


Then one day, his situation gone serious and went to a building where he hurts himself while he taught that he had killed "Chi". That moment, the Psychiatrist rushes there after answering his call and notice that there is something not right. However the part is, how did she knows about his location and in terms of her role whether as psychiatrist or as counselor, at that moment, why she did not ask for assistance but went to see him alone? What will happen if he is really out of control and act dangerously? If in reality, there is someone goes beyond their main job as this girl, I just feel that the feelings is Beyond Doctor-Patient & Counselor-Client. She had did extra outside therapy sessions. In the movie, she did not explain in very details in terms of the mental illness that her patient is facing. Not much info related to mental illness in this movie. 

Then I though that it is a horror movie at first then later on, I only realize that his mother had passed away and those screen that she keeps appearing are like additional. I am not sure those who talked to her are spirits or human. There are confusions over here. 


Well, over-all, actually the whole movie, it is meaningful. Meaningful in sense of , when someone in grief due to losing someone they love, they have to move on and continue with their life. They should not be overly depressed or guilt until their mind and daily life got affected. When Ng Ka-Wai's mother passed away, he starts to have illusions and his living father is so worried about him. Moreover, this movie show the others side of his mother whereby keeps she is worried about him. In real life, we do not know what is after life but imagine if there is after life, the person who had passed away, will feel sad and cannot rest in peace if that person sees that their next of kins unable to move on. Then those who are still alive, if they see that their family members who are over depressed and daily life seriously affected, they too will become worried. The movie is meaningful by portraying the message to ask someone to accept the matter of fact when death happened. 




When I watch this movie, I recalled what my late father told me, he always say to me that "Treasure the time with the love ones when they are alive because after death, how grand is the funerals or how big is the tomb, it won't serve any purpose anymore". A month before he passed away, he met with his ex-colleague in the hospital where her mother passed away. I remember my late father told that person not to cry in front of her mother because her mother will be sad if see her crying sadly. I never expect that a month later, he passed away too. Remembering his words, I did not cry out loud.... I don't want him to be sad. Although I am sad as I know that he is gone forever but I think in another side, he no longer need to suffer anymore due to his chronic disease. 

Well, once a person heart stopped beating, they won't have feelings anymore and will not see it. Is there after life? It is a Mystery. What is done alive is the most important where it is the memories that would be created and live forever. He had gone one year plus.... Ever since then, I even have deeper thinking... I should spend more time with my family. I start to separate between work and personal life seriously. I am not sure with those who are reading my blog. Have you ever notice that sometimes, we may be too focus in work? After work still attending to WhatsApp or messages by your company? Or maybe back home also still working and planning? 

Somehow, I think that nowadays, adults spent too much time in work. Anyhow, your position in the company is replaceable. If you resign today, tomorrow they will put an advertisement to hire someone. Moreover, are you sure that every single thing and sacrificed that you did in the company, you will be appreciated? After all to a company, it is your responsibilities to carry out job perfectly with zero mistakes and monthly, you are paid by the company to carried out the responsibilities..... But, your position in family is different. Nobody could replace you. Unconditional Love, Unconditional Sacrifices......................

Just like my father, when he had passed away, I lost him forever. He is no longer with him and left are memories with him. I cannot be putting up advertisement looking for replacement. The is the one and the only one. All of us are Non-Replaceable in our Family. 



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